Top 5 plus 1 things you should ask yourself if you really think you like or love someone

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I would never label myself as a love expert or ever intend to be, but I am interested in the subject and the topic of what makes relationships really last. I've been in several relationships, on numerous dates, read many articles, and have talked to many people about the facets of their relationships and how they really make it work. One rule of thumb is that although opposites usually attract, both  partners need to have the same values. This could mean perspectives on kids, family, friends, other relationships, work, money, and ultimately how each partner sees their life playing out over time. If both partners are set on walking different paths, I think it becomes ever more difficult for each to see eye-to-eye when problems arise; and it's the part where both of you can fight to stick together when the proverbial sh*t hits the fan that will really keep you together.

So with that said, below are 5+1 questions that I think you should ask yourself to hypothetically stress-test your relationship. These questions are important to consider when in a serious, or going-to-be-serious, relationship.

  1. Can see yourself living with this person for the rest of your life (ups, downs, when they don't look as hot)?
  2. Can see yourself marrying this person? (if you believe in marriage)
  3. Can you see yourself sticking around when it hits rock bottom?
  4. Think of something really important to you right now -- could you see yourself giving this up for them (your job, money, time, geographical location)? (you may give or take on some items but its good to figure out where you would draw the line)
  5. Can you see yourself building with this person as a partner?
  6. Can you see yourself raising a family with this person? (if you are family oriented)

Obviously, not everything can been foreseen and it's so hard to predict what something or someone will be like 5, 10, or even 2 years down the line. But I hope these questions at least help you align your intentions, so that you might give it a very good fighting chance. Do you agree with them? Did I miss anything? Let me know!

-FF

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